In this crazy… fast paced… dog eat dog world, it’s important to have an established set of rules that you live by. A set of rules that have the final say in every decision you make. If what you are about to do aligns with your rules, it’s safe to proceed. If it doesn’t, then you don’t.
Sounds pretty simple doesn’t it?
If so, why are so many people driven by other factors than their own rules.
I believe it’s because most people just haven’t taken the time to set them.
Well, here is your opportunity!
Now, many of you are probably thinking to yourself… “What the heck does he mean by rules”?
Fair enough! Let me give you a few examples from my world.
I have two children. My daughter is 16 years old and my son is four years old. I know… I know… When people ask me about my kids I cushion the shock of the age gap by telling them I on the “1 every 12 year plan” and my next kid is scheduled for when I turn 44. That seems to detract them from any follow-up questions. Phew!
I have certain rules and expectations for my children and I need them to eventually take ownership of these rules and most importantly live them. Because of their ages I have to communicate the rules differently, but over all they are the same.
I call these the “BIG FIVE” and they are in order of priority:
- Respect! Yourself and others!
- School & School Related Commitments
- Other Commitments Made
I have been “beating” these in my daughter’s head for years and have made it clear that her ability to have freedom in # 5 is 100% dependant on her prioritization of the previous four.
I use the example of my children because it’s much easier to judge the world around us and give advice or recommendations. It’s important we learn how to do the same thing for ourselves.
Another example! My rules.
When I set my rules I think about what kind of man I want to be and more importantly, what kind of man I need to be to become the man I want to be. I think about my attitude, emotions, and actions. I think about the different roles I play and responsibilities I have. I think about my passions are and what gives meaning to my world.
- Everything I do has to be meaningful and have purpose. I refuse to go through the motions.
- I have an obligation to provide value to the world.
- I must walk my talk and set the example.
- My mental, emotional, and physical health are the foundations of everything.
- Financial Security & Prosperity = Freedom & Opportunity
These are the rules I TRY to live by. I’m not always successful.
I’ve done things where I’ve asked myself “why am I doing this?”. I’ve behaved in ways that don’t align with the type of man I want to be. I have eaten too much fast food and spent money recklessly. It’s OK… it’s going to happen, but because I’ve established “my rules” I know pretty quick when something is off.
So, I challenge you to think about and establish “YOUR BIG 5″. What are five rules that if you were to follow, will enable you to living a life of confidence and fulfillment.
If you’re not following your rules, you’re probably following someone elses!
What BIG 5 will you be following by 30?